2017 – Challenge your F.E.A.R.!

Are you ready to Challenge your F.E.A.R.? It is ready to challenge you. This was such a powerful message, I thought I would share it again. Keep holding your desires close to reach what you deserve.

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The soul attracts that which it secretly harbors; that which it loves, and also that which it fears. It reaches the height of its cherished aspirations. It falls to the level of its unchastened desires – and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own. ~ James Allen, As a Man Thinketh

What do I hate most in life? The thing(s) that I am afraid of. We all have things in our life that we are either scared to do or say. For some of us, it could have been something from the past that we never could over or a fear we have developed over the years. Whatever that thing is, it will hinder your true potential to grow as a person and a leader. I know we could talk about kids’ stuff such as the monster under our bed or some other fictitious character that we…

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2017 – Be on a Mission

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Life can be wonderful when we decide to make the best of it. You and I have to make a conscious decision to create the opportunities that we desire. At this time in my life, I am becoming more aware of who I am and what I need to do to reach my goals and it is mindblowing. Some days I am telling myself that I am crazy, but something inside of me is also saying, “It is good to be crazy for a great cause.” That’s why, I have decided to be on a mission for greatness – nothing more, nothing less. On my mission, I am not afraid to fail. My failures will give me wings!

“Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.”~ John F. Kennedy

If we desire to be great and do great things we must decide to do things with a mission’s attitude. If we are on a mission, we must have a purpose. Hold it as an image in your mind. What is it that you desire the most? Is it to see your family happy, live a healthy life, create your own success? Whatever that desire is, you must make this a mission daily to shape the world around you that will produce your desired results. In your quest to get to your blessing, there may be obstacles that render you helpless and sometimes hopeless – it begins to look and feel impossible. But, do not be dismayed, it is part of the growth process.

Personal Mission

Do you have a personal mission in life? Are you working on leaving a legacy? I am not talking about leaving behind some form of physical possessions – even though that is also great. However, I speaking of deeper things. We should live a life with meaning and filled with joy. The life you and I live should be a legacy. Your legacy is all about who are, those you are closest to and those in the wider world you have touched. As we live our life feeling the joy, we get to understand that living with purpose and a mission gives us new meaning. If you have not discovered this as yet, I encourage you to spend some time searching until you find it. Let us find that ONE Thing that makes us happy. Leave that happiness legacy for the next generation.

Legacy is not leaving something for people, it is leaving something in people. ~ Peter Strople

All of us can reach unbelievable goals in our lifetime, but they would only be goals if they were not fully embraced as part of the legacy in our mission. Your personal mission should come from a deeper place where you determine, that once you have run the race and chart the course – people can write about it in history. What is it that you desire the most in your mission on this earth? Is it just to live and then die? Or, is it to stretch your dreams to uplift the world around you? You have it within you to be the change agent that the world needs. Take your mark, get set, ready and go after your mission! Today I want to encourage to get started on your personal mission. It will take you on a remarkable journey as you fulfill your purpose. Life is waiting for you to pounce and take your place, set your mark!

Today I want to encourage to get started on your personal mission. It will take you on a remarkable journey as you fulfill your purpose. Life is waiting for you to pounce and take your place, set your mark!

As you prepare your mind, body, and spirit, say this one of the following “Mission’s Release” to yourself Ten (10) Times as you start to refocus your thoughts on your mission. Each day, week and month you can focus on one or two areas. (Some of the missions you wish to “Release” will take longer, but be patient knowing, the race is not for the swift, nor the battle to the strong – endure to the end). Here are your Mission’s Release phrases:

I am on a Mission _______(fill in your mission)_______ (for spiritual growth)

I am on a Mission _______(fill in your mission)_______ (for family and friends)

I am on a Mission _________(fill in your mission)______ (for health)

I am on a Mission _________(fill in your mission)______ (for work and skill)

I am on a Mission _________(fill in yur mission)_______ (for business and finances) 

Be on a mission that says, “I am deserving of it and those around me will reap the legacy.” I am on a mission for greatness!

#Keep Doing Your Best Work!

RHOY

 

 

2017 – The Beauty in Connection…

It is time again to add value to the people I love. If you missed that I did not share yesterday – thank you. I have said on numerous occasions that my inspiration comes from my daily interaction with people. I am fully vested in the Law of Connection, where John C. Maxwell gives us a profound lesson about the purpose of Connection in the life of a leader. The Law of Connection states that “Leaders Touch a Heart Before They Ask for a Hand.” This is such a true law about us as humans and how we must connect with people from the heart and as they would say, the rest is history – Wrong! A connection does not start with the conversation or the greeting, the connection must first start within you. When we connect, it does not just happen once, it is on a continuum where you and the person get ready to exchange and engage. What do you notice about yourself that automatically makes you a connector? This is what I have come to know, as you live like a connector on the inside others will start to make the slow or quick buy-in. As you and I lead our lives, it is important that we discover how to lead the connection. I am learning how to develop that daily and I am noticing phenomenal growth. What I love about life and understanding our potential is that we can always grow. You can grow as a connector as well – no matter at what level you are. I have determined that I am a connector at level 7! What is your level (on a scale of 1 to 10)?

Yesterday, as I often do my practice to connect with people I meet, I had a bonzer experience that reminded me of why it is important to connect with people. It is such an important skill that I think we will be marginalized for the most part throughout life if we refuse to grow in this area. I want to let you know we all need to connect beyond our circle – and I did just that when I connected with T.C.J. (for respect I will use T.C.J. to refer to my new friend). T.C.J. is such a humble person. When I met him yesterday, he never flaunted who he was. Instead, he decided to engage with me and inspired me by the words he had to say and more so his wonderful story. That’s what provided my inspiration for today. T.C.J. explained in our conversation that he has genital cancer which causes excruciating pain for many patients and for others not so much. As he shared this very personal experience, he never asked or inadvertently made us think he wanted self-pity. He said: “I don’t have much pain” and gave a smile as he outlined that he knows so many others who have a lot more pain than he does, and so he felt blessed. When he said those words, “I feel blessed” I truly felt what he was saying. T.C.J. continued to explain that he gets to do so many things that others are not able to do – cheerfully he listed them out: be with my family, work every day and do so much more. He was blessed with the things he still gets to do and not concerning himself with the situation. I am sure you will agree with me that T.C.J. has a remarkable story and lesson in the life he is living. He was not afraid to say – in spite of his circumstance – “I am blessed”. At that moment, I saw an individual who was living the law of connection. He was not afraid to share his heart – even if he was unaware of what he was doing – T.C.J’s ability to connect won our hearts by showing how to be happy in spite of. How many of us can do that today? How many of us would be able to stand convinced you would be happy no matter the circumstance? Something for us to think about.

The story of T.C.J. taught me or more so reminded me of why it is important to connect with people from the heart and then lead from there. I never met this gentleman before but connecting with him yesterday inspired me to look at my own life. How have I been living and what am I really concerned about? Is it money, the house, next movie night, changing out my wardrobe, traveling, etc.? What is important today, right here, right now? I too found value in the conversation from the fact that I was practicing the law of connection. I was able to bring home something just by making the effort to connect in an intentional way. As I discover my leadership ability, I am aware that we are all not at the same place. We must, therefore, search out ways to build those connection skills in life.

When you connect with others, you position yourself to make the most of your skills and talents…No matter what your goals are, connecting can help you… [and remember] The ability to connect with others begins with understanding the value of people.” ~ John C. Maxwell, Everyone Communicates, Few Connect.

I was reminded yesterday about being grateful and the value of connecting with others. We can all take away something today from this message if we try to put the pieces together in our individual situation. Are you willing to make an effort to connect with someone today? People have amazing stories and experiences – making that connection allows you to start discovering how blessed you can live. One of the greatest connectors of all time taught us a valuable lesson about what happens when we connect with people – Jesus Christ. For those who believe in Him, His life and mission have forever stained our hearts. We can take a page from his life and the people He connected with. Case in point – Check out the lives of the apostles, the woman at the well in Samaria, Zacchaeus just to name a few. His example provides a road map about first touching the heart before he asked for a hand. As you evaluate yourself today and connecting with yourself, John C. Maxwell suggests that we start by measuring our self-awareness (knowing and liking who you are) by answering a few questions:

 

  • How would I describe my personality?
  • What is my greatest character strength?
  • What is my greatest character weakness?
  • What is my single greatest asset?
  • What is my single greatest deficit?
  • How well do I relate to others (1 to 10)?
  • How well do I communicate with others (1 to 10)?
  • How likable am I (1 to 10)?

Now ask three people you know well to answer the same questions about you. ~ John C. Maxwell

We all need to learn the beauty in connecting with others so we can strengthen the relationships that are important to us. Take some time to think on these things and discover your connection point.

#Keep Doing Your Best Work!

RHOY

2017 – Finding Your Happy Place >>>

“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.” ~ Les Brown

It is true that most people go through life and never discover their true potential. It either occurs because of how we were cultured, our personal beliefs, fear of the unknown, or physical oppression. It just seems to be one of the most difficult things to do – getting to what we truly desire. We need to be led to our happy place. There is something in all of us telling us that there is more than what we see and do currently, but for some reason, we choose to suppress those things and settle for the next best. The problem does not really rely on not achieving the potential, but it is aligned with how we think it should all fall into place. The beauty about human potential is that it does not have any limits and therefore even when you think you have gotten to the top there is still an opportunity to do more. We get lost in our fairy tale story that we have created in our mind and not having an intentional mindset. Instead of allowing ourselves to dive into discovery and unchartered waters, we get scared when our plans don’t work out the way we expected. Because of defeat we become afraid and refuse to try again. This locks down our potential and we get stuck at the same place for years. We are seldom willing to follow the process to unleash our true potential. No one can give us the answers we need other than what we believe in ourselves.  You and I must not give up in our quest to find our happy place. What makes you want to live another day? What brings you joy? We need to find our happy place or else we will go to the grave with it – What then? God has blessed ever human with infinite potential to do the things they so desire. We have a choice. What will we make of it?

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I want us to never give up! We must remain relentless in our pursuit of what makes us happy. I can let you know, money will not create the type of happiness I am talking about. Money fits into the realm where we self-actualize to some degree. But, beyond this, we can truly find something that is fulfilling. It is interesting that I have come back to this topic in my daily posts as I find this to be a very important part of personal development. I am realizing things about myself that I never considered before. What I have found is that my own thoughts and those that have been instilled in my mind have created a void for wanting what I desire in life and believe I deserve. I know it might sound a bit repetitive, but I have to say it again – you and I can get and live the life we desire and deserve. Someone once wrote, “One of the greatest enemies of your potential is success.” Can you see yourself beyond success? We get overly excited about gaining success that we forget it’s just a state.

“Don’t be satisfied with your last accomplishment, because there are many accomplishments yet to be perfected. Since you are full of potential, you should not be the same person next year that you are this year. Never accept success as a lifestyle—it is but a phase. Never accept an accomplishment as the end—it is but a mark in the process.” ~ Thesoulfactory.com

You were born for a purpose and you should spend time doing the things that will constantly motivate you in that direction. We should do our utmost best to maximize our potential and not take it to the grave. God wants us to find out who we are in him and through Him, we can determine a better life and never settle. For today’s exercise, I want for you to write down ten (10) things that are uniquely you. What ten things would you use to define who you are? If you can’t find those ten things it means you have work to do to discover who you are and realizing that your potential is infinite. It is then, you will begin to live in your happy place.

Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is! ~ Anne Frank

#Keep Doing Your Best Work!

RHOY

2017 – Tapping into your heart’s desires.

The starting point of achievement is desire. ~ Napoleon Hill

What would it mean to you if you could get all the desires of your heart? Would you be able to contain it? How would you change? What would this do for you? I am almost sure that these are questions that no one really asks as they seek their heart’s desire. As humans, we have this strong desire to be fulfilled in life. Often, this desire is attached to acquiring our “pot of gold”. We have attached our desire to the physical things that benefits just us and how we want to feel. We love self-gratification and sadly people get lost at the top when they believe they have reached that level of self-actualization. I do not claim to be a psychologist, but I am fascinated by human behavior and the way we think. We have such a powerful engine called the brain that has stretched our reality.

I am inspired by how one thought can revolutionize our entire human experience. We can only imagine today what went through the thoughts of greats such as Albert Einstein who developed the general theory of relativity and Steve Jobs who is considered the pioneer of the microcomputer revolution, or that of Elon Musk whose vision is to change the world and humanity by reducing global warming through sustainable energy production and consumption, and reducing the “risk of human extinction” by “making life multiplanetary”. While you and I have seen most of the results of Einstein and Jobs, Musk’s outlandish approach to what the world should be in the future may scare a lot of us. But, this is all pointing to what the human heart desires. Musk apparently has tapped deep into his heart’s desires as he wants to change the world in his lifetime. So too did Einstein and Jobs who removed some of the world’s frustrations by providing us groundbreaking discoveries to make life better for all. As I looked closely at these desires, it brought to light one fundamental question: To what end?

There is no certainty that after we have tapped into our heart’s desire that we will be finally fulfilled because we are creatures of dominion and we try relentlessly to get to the next desire. But, to what end? This must be what Abraham Maslow must have thought about when he studied the greatest minds of his time.  We normally read and see a depiction of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs as five levels throughout one’s development. These needs are aligned to our desires. Each level of realization brings about an awareness that provides a window into what we can or need next. The highest level in this need that we have as humans based on the earlier version of Maslow’s study was self-actualization. Barry, author of the blog Personality & Spirituality provides the insight that Maslow thought self-actualization reflects the fact that human beings are not simply biological machines. As we mature and become more aware of ourselves, we are increasingly driven by a sense of personal meaning and purpose. The pictorial provides where we often stop when we talk about the hierarchy of needs.

Maslow’s original pyramid of the hierarchy of needs

As Maslow searched deeper, he did find another level that puzzled him. He discovered that people who reach the highest level which he had originally thought were now aiming for something else. In his studies, he discovered what he called peaked experiences.

Peak experiences – are profound, life-altering moments of love, understanding, happiness, bliss. They are moments in which one feels radically more whole, more completely alive, more aware of truth, beauty, goodness, and so on. ~ Barry, Personality and Spirituality

What Maslow determined was that people had a renewed desire beyond self-actualization and they wanted to harness these peak experiences, then move towards actively seeking them out, expand them and have them stabilized. This led him to add the final goal of Self-transcendence to top off the pyramid. This was an awakening as it opened a new worldview where individuals were noted to have the desire “to go beyond [their] ordinary human level of consciousness and experience oneness with the greater whole, the higher truth, whatever that may be.”

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Maslow’s Six Hierarchy of Needs

If you are wondering why I went into all this, please bear with me. It was important that you see where we come to understand the power of our desires and why “tapping into your heart’s desires” ultimately brings you to seeking for the truth of who you are. What is your purpose in life? As we mature through the levels of our needs we begin to identify the full purpose of living. In my journey, I have recognized this through my faith in Jesus Christ. This is where I have found my greatest fulfillment to love people and add value to their lives. You and I have a mission in life to discover who we are and what purpose we were created to serve. That purpose could mean serving your community through discipleship, school, government, or country. Whatever the purpose you serve you would have gotten to the level of embracing the experience where you unite with where you are and serve that which is beyond the individual self: the unity of all being. Now that you have been made aware or reminded of aiming for your most impressive need in life, here are some questions to ask yourself:

  1. Why do you want to live and do what you do?
  2. When do you feel most fulfilled?
  3. What makes you happy when everything else is falling apart around you?
  4. What is the one desire that you have that will change the world?
  5. What will be your legacy?

#Keep Doing Your Best Work!

RHOY

2017 -Unlimited Potential…

As human beings, we have unlimited potential and imagination. The worst thing you can do is be a conformist and buy into conformity. It’s the worst possible thing. It’s better to be outrageous. It’s better to hang out with the sages, the people open to possibilities, even the psychotics. You never know where you’ll find the geniuses of our society. ~ Deepak Chopra

The thrill I feel when I have accomplished something lingers for days. I love the taste of victory and I am sure that you have the same feelings too. If you read my daily posts, you would have noticed that my faith is fully intertwined with who I am, plus everything I do and say is influenced by that conviction and the Holy Scriptures. With that said, I would like to add value to your life today by using one of the stories from the scriptures about the life of a prominent man. I love this story. It is the life of Joseph who on record was the 11th son of Jacob who was later named Israel.  The full story can be read from the Book of Genesis Chapters 37 – 48.  I thought that this story tied in well with our own desire to reach our potential. However, the only difference with most of us currently is that we cannot fathom the idea that we have unlimited potential – when in fact we do. Here is Joseph’s story in a nutshell:

Jacob had 12 children and the eleventh one was Joseph. There was something interesting about Joseph, he had a thing for big and lofty dreams. Even his father and brothers rebuked him for the things that he was trying to insinuate. But, this did not deter Joseph from dreaming. He could not explain his dreams fully, but he had in him unlimited potential. Because of the envy and disdain that Joseph’s brothers had developed towards him, they had him sold to some Ishmaelites and he ended up in the land of Egypt. Now back in those days, people could sell a person as a slave and Joseph found himself in the hands of one of the prominent men in Egypt. As the story continues to unfold Joseph is thrown into prison, then removed and was eventually placed in the position where he was next in command to the Pharaoh. How amazing was that! You may not be aware of this story or don’t care to know much about it, but I mentioned it here to prove the point about our human potential. If you are like me, you might have asked: What did this man possess that made him rise from absolute failure to becoming a ruler? What propelled this man to where he achieved the unthinkable? The answer is simple, Joseph had unlimited potential that provided him with the power to rise. His brothers had forgotten all about him, but here he was laying the foundation because of a dream. I imagine that Joseph held on to his dreams that he had shared with his fellow brethren. He must have replayed them over and over in his mind, wondering what could they mean. Here is one of his dreams:

Then he dreamed still another dream and told it to his brothers, and said, “Look, I have dreamed another dream. And this time, the sun, the moon, and the eleven stars bowed down to me.” ~ Genesis 37:9

How amazing was that dream! He predicted that his entire family would be bowing down to him. When his family heard this, his father rebuked him because he interpreted the dream to mean they would all bow down to him. I am sure that the same would not have happened to me if I had the guts to tell my family a dream like that. First of all, they wouldn’t even listen. However, in Joseph’s case, he got the chance to share. Being a young lad he was so eager to share his lofty ideas. And guess what? His dreams became a reality. He displayed what unlimited potential can do in a person’s life. No matter who you are today, there is always an opportunity to get better. Your potential is directly related to your ability to grow. Like Joseph, we may have a dream, but is that dream lofty enough to the point where those closest to you think you are crazy? Do you believe deep in your heart that you have unlimited potential? Are you willing to challenge yourself to start unleashing your potential? We need to find interesting answers to these questions in our quest to uncover what we can really achieve. Our potential simply says to us that if we don’t know how to do something, it is our opportunity to start doing something (summarized thoughts from my friend Roddy Galbraith from the John Maxwell Group). Potential is all about growth and the more we recognize this link we begin to align our purpose. If you and I want to discover our unlimited potential, then tap into the positive energy of the world around you. Build a repertoire of thought provoking questions that will challenge you to think differently. Because “questions provide the key to unlocking unlimited potential.” ~ Tony Robbins

You and I can take our dreams and desires to the next level. It only takes the conscious effort to start doing something. If a person prays for courage, does God just give him/her courage? No, but God creates the opportunity to develop the courage. This is what I’ve come to know, we get to live out our unlimited potential because the opportunities are provided to create the things you and I desire.

Believe, live, and be open to your unlimited potential!

#Keep Doing Your Best Work!

RHOY

 

2017 – Challenge your F.E.A.R.!

The soul attracts that which it secretly harbors; that which it loves, and also that which it fears. It reaches the height of its cherished aspirations. It falls to the level of its unchastened desires – and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own. ~ James Allen, As a Man Thinketh

What do I hate most in life? The thing(s) that I am afraid of. We all have things in our life that we are either scared to do or say. For some of us, it could have been something from the past that we never could over or a fear we have developed over the years. Whatever that thing is, it will hinder your true potential to grow as a person and a leader. I know we could talk about kids’ stuff such as the monster under our bed or some other fictitious character that we have conjured in our mind, but when we take a closer look into our desire to lead a better life this reshapes the “what” we are afraid of. You may fear the dark, being alone, dying, losing your job, losing your family, rejection or just talking to people, you name it – nothing will change until you challenge that fear. The acronym: F.E.A.R. or False Evidence Appearing Real has two key underlying factors – False and Appearing. When you and I feel afraid to say or do something, False ideas will pop up in our minds to create the illusion that what we are seeing or feeling is Real. However, it is far from real. The feeling of fear starts from the mind and develops slowly or quickly into this monster that haunts relentlessly. We end up living life afraid and everything comes with the self-deprecating questions: Am I good enough? What if it doesn’t work? What if I fail? What are people going to think or say about me? Our thoughts get filled with these unhelpful emotions. Your heart begins to race, your palms sweat, you feel the chills and before you know it everything is out of control. However, I am glad to let you know F.E.A.R. is irrelevant when you learn to channel that energy.

We can move from being scared to wanting to experience fear so we can challenge it. A lot of people might say that we should overcome our fears, but what that means quite often is allowing the fear to go dormant. In my view, we should not try to overcome fear because it is a part of what makes us human. I purport rather, that we challenge what we are afraid of. Put your F.E.A.R. to the test! You will win.

“Bless you for your fear for it is a sign of wisdom. Do not hold yourself in fear. Transform the energy to flexibility and you will be free from what you fear.” ~ Yuko Ono

In my own journey, I have so many fears that could have stopped me from achieving my goals. Recently, I came to the realization that the fear I feel or show is what I have in my thoughts. Think about it. If you say you are afraid to do something, where did you first form that idea? It cannot be from what you see, but it is from what you think. Our thoughts become the mirror to our soul and our actions. You may find this odd but the greatest fear that I have had was to the fear of being successful. There was something about success that scared me. What if I never become successful enough? What if I change who I am in the process? How would people treat me if I am successful? This plagued my mind constantly and I knew there must be something that I can change. I had it all mixed up in my mind. Verbally, I would express the desire for success, but deep down I was scared to achieve this because I had made my own assumptions about success. You may not have this experience but something in your life has prevented you from stepping into what you want. I encourage you to challenge that fear. The only way you can transfer that energy into something positive is being aware of your fear. The moment I became aware of my fear of success and becoming successful; I began to see a pattern in how my fear was trying to control my thoughts and eventually my actions. I made a decision to challenge my fears and produced results. Today, I am no longer afraid of success or being successful. In fact, I am so hungry for it that I talk and live it every day. It is as if I have had a rebirth in rediscovering myself. My walk with Jesus Christ was what provided the foundation for which I am able to rise above my fears. The boldness I have as a believer has given me clarity about challenging who I am on the inside – My F.E.A.R.s now have a platform to be challenged and I get to feel empowered. Release your fear, release your mind.

“say to those with fearful hearts, “Be strong, do not fear; your God will come, he will come with vengeance; with divine retribution, he will come to save you.” ~ Isaiah 35:4

As you face your fears head on and challenge to win, here are a few things you can do to channel that energy:

  1. Make a list of all the things you fear and find a moment of prayer to bring them to God, through Jesus Christ. Take them one at a time as you lay them before the Father, you begin to claim your healing.
  2. Document your thoughts – When you find yourself drifting into the realm of fear, relate that moment clearly. How do you feel? What makes you feel that way?
  3. Experience your fear. This might seem odd, but I can tell you it is a positive approach. When you are afraid begin to channel that energy by noting that it is there. Welcome the idea that you are afraid and say what you feel. You can say, “I feel afraid about________. I am aware of its presence. I welcome this fear because I am ready to challenge it.”

#Keep Doing Your Best Work!

RHOY

2017 – What’s in it for me?

It is another Fantabulous day in the world! Even though we have challenges at times beyond our abilities and pay grade on the job, we learn to defy the odds. It is a good time to be alive, but have you asked yourself this question lately: “What’s in it for me?” At first, this might seem like you’re selfish, but if we contemplate this a little more we get to work out a different angle. The sophist in our mind will try to control our thoughts and tells us we are selfish to think about ourselves. I do not want anyone to get this wrong because I am not talking about people who do things in life with the expectation of “you owe me one”. Instead, I want to take us to the next level of living that dictates we should live in expectation that our efforts to grow will produce remarkable results. We often get bogged down with everything else and spend very little time to develop and sharpen our skills and the ways we can shape the world around us. We need to look beyond the physical to imagine the transformation that our life could have in the lives of others.  So, What’s in it for me? I get the chance to watch someone discover their true potential. As I grow I want to see you grow! Today is no different and there is something special that I would like for you to understand about what you were designed for. You and I have a chance in this life to reshape our legacy. I have begun that journey.

Many may not know about my experience, but I consider myself to be a go getter in life. I am hardly phased by a challenge and when one challenge is done I am hungry for more. The pains in my life have only created the callus of strength that I need today to do it again and do it stronger. What is your emotional pain that you want to heal? Do you have some scars in your life that just keep breaking out? I can tell you this, you are not alone. We all have emotional pain and scars that have kept us from getting to where we deserve. The only way that we can heal is determining to grow! I always love to share stories of my own personal journey – things that I had to overcome to heal and grow. I realized at an early stage in my life that there is no need to carry pain around. It only ways you down! Here’s one way I broke the ceiling by determining to grow:

In 2004, I decided to do one of the boldest things I believe. I have always wanted to know who my father was and every single day of my life that was a pain I carried around with me. When people would talk about their father or I would see my other friends connect with their father I felt empty. I knew someday I would need to meet him, but I was afraid. What if he didn’t want to have anything to do with me? What if I got to know him and didn’t like him? Why didn’t he want to come look for me and get the chance to know more about me? Was this my fault or just that he did not care? I toyed with a myriad of questions in my mind, but I knew that I wanted to know my birth father no matter what. It took me 19 years to muster up the courage to go and approach him, but by this time something significant had happened in my life. I had fully evolved in my journey as a disciple of Jesus Christ and now I had peace with everything. Every area of my life saw growth and I had a new purpose in life. Those questions that challenged me had subsided to the point where I felt in my heart that it was the right thing to do – connect with my father. He was my father and I had every right in the world to connect with him. I had to figure out, “What’s in it for me?” I was the one who was hurting and I knew exactly what I needed to do. Though this might have seemed pointless at the time to many it was my life and I knew what I wanted. I made the decision to meet my father and it was one of the best decisions I made at that time in my life. When I met my father, I loved him. I did not go expecting him to explain anything. I just decided that I will love him.

I am not sure what area of your life is hurting, but that pain can end when you decide to let it go. You may be asking, What’s in it for me? I can tell you right now that releasing your pain is what’s in it for you. You have the right to be happy. You deserve to get the most out of your life. I decided that I would share with you a synopsis of one of the ways I was able to heal and determining to grow. What is it that you are holding on to? What is holding you back from freeing up your mind? I need for you to release it today and start developing a plan of how you will focus on your happiness. No one else can make you happy if it doesn’t start first with your thoughts.

“Keep your hand firmly upon the helm of thought. In the bark of your soul reclines the commanding Master; He does but sleep; wake Him. Self-control is strength; Right Thought is mastery; Calmness is power.” ~ James Allen, As a Man Thinketh.

The power is inside of you to determine where you want to go and what you desire to be. Are you willing to do what it takes to awaken the light so it can shine brightly? I know that I am!

#Keep Doing Your Best Work!

RHOY

2017 – Purpose, Commitment & Accountability – Part 3

I am now setting the stage for what the next years of my life will look like. I cannot say that I will be alive, but it is my hope. With this hope, I have a desire to be great and stay great. The path we take to get where we want doesn’t happen by chance but through audacious moves, we learn how to navigate.

You and I are here in this very moment feeling the intensity of the day. We are going to rise up and start living the words we speak and believe from our thoughts. For the past two days, we have joined hearts in recognizing the value of purpose, commitment, and accountability. We have learned to ask our “Why” to unleash our purpose and discovered the way to start living out commitment daily. We are now ready to step into another realm of living where we understand that we need to attach something of significance to our purpose and the need to align our commitment to accountability. Let’s open the accountability door.

Accountability 

We are in this together and that is how we will achieve it. Accountability requires togetherness, it requires seeking out to get others to help us along the journey. You should not do this alone. You Are Not Alone!
“Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to the result.” ~ Bob Proctor
Accountability goes to the core of what you want to really achieve. It is so important that we become aware of what it takes to get to the top of our game. Having a purpose is great. Living a life committed to that purpose is also awesome, but we need to have accountability in the mix. As you brainstorm, here are a few thoughtful questions:
  1. Have you set a standard that you must follow to gain success?
  2. What are you willing to do?
  3. Who will you take on this journey?
  4. Do you feel the need to do whatever it takes or are you waiting for someone to give you the approval?

Accountability stretches you. If you want to sure up your accountability spectrum, it will require you to get outside of your comfort zone. I have learned an amazing way to get accountability going and keep it growing. I really wanted to get a better grip of this and so in my search, I found this approach to master my accountability. If you have been reading my posts daily, you would have seen my share where I mentioned the book The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller with Jay Papasan. This amazing principle helped me to discover my ONE Thing that I am now living. One of the things that Keller suggests to conquer accountability in any area of life is to do a 66-Day Challenge. This challenge would help us focus on our spiritual life, physical health, personal life, key relationships, jobs, business, and financial life. It is such a joy when accountability is aligned to habits – the purpose we are committed to in life – we get the opportunity to find ways to start living what we say and believe.

“Accountability is the breakfast of champions.” ~ Gary Keller

There are many areas in my life that I applied the 66-Day Challenge, but my best experience was when I applied it to improve the habit of cementing key relationships. I started out what I call an “accountability partnership.”  We lived out reciprocity as this individual was there to share and expound big ideas. We challenged each other’s thoughts and everything that we had for a goal. My accountability partner and I took the 66-Day Challenge to continue building a positive connection. Every day we encouraged each other to do something more as we focused on all goals towards our ONE thing. This was an amazing experience because over the 66 days we got to zone in on the things that were challenging us and the things that we needed to be motivated to do. The result was astounding! We not only helped each other to get things to the next level but also developed a stronger friendship. We achieved the goal of building a key relationship for life. As you work towards your purpose and staying committed, you can apply the 66-Day Challenge as a tool to create the habit you desire. I am constantly working on improving myself and whenever I need to keep things going I just get my Challenge Calendar out and start tracking. I care so much about your success and want to open your mind to some amazing things that can get us moving in the right direction. Today, you can start or continue the journey of learning accountability by doing a 66-Day Challenge.

The vision that you glorify in your mind, the Ideal that you enthrone in your heart – this you will build your life by, this you will become. ~ James Allen

We are all on a mission to compose the best version of ourselves. It is with purpose we take action, living with a sincere commitment to those actions and developing accountability that will produce the results. Take the time to dig deeper and see how what I have shared over the past few days can help you live a happier, better life. Remember it all starts with the first thought. Be blessed!

Personal accountability means being answerable to our “better selves” or to the sort of honorable human being we would like to be. ~ John C. Maxwell

#Keep Doing Your Best Work!

RHOY

2017 – Purpose, Commitment & Accountability – Part 2

The “Leadership Evolution” is all about the process. I am very excited to be on this journey and to have you join me. Yesterday, we spent some time laying the foundation for some excellent thoughts about purpose, commitment, and accountability. I zeroed in on purpose which made us concentrate on our “why”. I hope you got some deep thinking done yesterday because today is going to lift you even higher. Where do you want to be and what are you willing to do to get there? It is important that we identify with the answers to that question as it feeds into our commitment and eventually our accountability. Let’s dive into commitment.

Commitment

As children, we are often given specific instructions about what to do and how to do it. We learn from our environment and because of this process of learning, we either develop a sense of neediness or the ability to get things done. A simple but relevant example of what I am talking about would take us back to the time I was a young boy going to primary school in Jamaica (in my time it was the Cascade All Age School). Those were fun times indeed with some oddities, but I survived them all. I decided to talk about my primary school days here to address the point of how our environment can affect the level of commitment we have in life. As a child, I had to walk more than 5 miles to school and back daily. I am sure at that time, I was never thinking about commitment, but this was one of the ways I believe that my desire to commit stemmed. Walking that far every day wasn’t really fun – unless you had a bunch of friends traveling with. However, the act of simply getting up every day with an eagerness to be in school – even though the distance was a challenge – gave me the chance to start building my commitment towards a successful life. I learned quickly to never give up. The desire to persevere was already built in at home, but I think every aspect of the journey was a building block.

The only limit to your impact is your imagination and commitment. ~ Tony Robbins

People may think that commitment starts when you get older, but that’s not the case. It is something that can become engraved on your DNA by your environment and circumstances. Most people who talk about commitment are merely suggesting we just follow a simple process and we will get there. However, I challenge that! True commitment grows on and inside of you. You can only learn commitment when you live your life with small pockets of triggers that give you the impetus to thrive. I cannot teach you commitment, in fact, there is no one out there who can teach someone to commit to something. You can be coerced to commit, but not taught. It must come from a deeper place. It must be coded on the thought process and the reciprocating actions we take. What I have come to understand is that commitment gets better with time.

If you are like me, I use to believe I have commitment issues. One moment, I would start something and then the next I would fall short. We get to the point of beating on ourselves and feel a sense of failure. Don’t you worry, it is part of the process of uncovering your commitment potential! Each time you have a breakdown provides an opportunity to start building again. The powerful outcome is coming and all you need is a bit of encouragement. I am sure you could share personal stories of what has gotten you where you are today. But, what about the ones that helped shaped your ability to commit. We all have those unique experiences that spoke to us along life’s journey. Now that you have heard this new way to tap into your commitment, how do you respond? You respond with action. We need to take some time to search for those commitment triggers and activate them daily. When you are ready, you will begin to recognize what Abraham Lincoln was trying to tell us:

Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality.

To grow my commitment daily, I have made some important decisions about what I tell myself and what I do. I am constantly reminded that my thoughts direct my actions.

“A man can only rise, conquer, and achieve by lifting up his thoughts. He can only remain weak, and abject, and miserable by refusing to lift up his thoughts.” ~ James Allen.

Yes, we can gain commitment by spending the time in an environment – both in your mental and physical space – to develop the purpose we have set out to achieve. It is your time to follow your purpose through a solid commitment, but that commitment must be harnessed and released when needed. Today, ask yourself some critical questions:

  1. How have I lived commitment?
  2. What am I doing to ensure I stay committed? Is it coming from deep inside?
  3. What have others noticed?
  4. What will I do starting now to identify my commitment triggers to ensure I remain on top of things?
  5. How can I work to add value to others through my commitment to the process?

“It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through.” ~ Zig Ziglar

Purpose, commitment, and accountability are essential to our success. We have focused on two, – purpose and commitment- tomorrow we put it all together when we apply accountability. Be blessed!

To be continued…

#Keep Doing Your Best Work!

RHOY