Have you ever felt like something is holding you back from achieving the things you would like to do in life? Or have you held the view that someone is holding you back? If you have had either of those thoughts, you are not alone. This is something we all experience as humans. We often get trapped in the “I’ll settle for this now, but…” syndrome. We find ourselves lost in this world of unrealistic circumstances that we can change. Yes, we can change the outcome of what we are experiencing. Most, if not all the time, we come to the conclusion that we are being held back for one reason or another. It is a lie! Let me explain. Take this for an example: a prisoner who is held in detention has to obey the who, what where, when and how of his/her debacle. They have a structured routine. They have very little control over their environment. When you listen to someone who has experienced such a predicament it makes you re-think your problems. In a 2014 interview with then, Uruguayan President José Mujica – dubbed ”
To explain, take for an example a prisoner who is held in detention. He/She has to obey the who, what, where, when and how of his/her debacle. They have a structured routine. They have very little control over their environment. When you listen to someone who has experienced such a predicament it makes you re-think your problems. In a 2014 interview with then, Uruguayan President José Mujica – dubbed “The Poorest President” – he explains what 13 years of imprisonment with a majority in confinement felt like. He recounts:
“sometimes we were on the border of madness. But, between madness and sanity, there is a shift boundary. It is impossible to explain. Time slows down and you have to try to fill it. You don’t have anything but solitude. So if there is a little bit of life, you admire it and study it. You admire the ants and the cobwebs and even the rats that gather crumbs in the middle of the night.”
President José Mujica’s experience gives us something to reflect on. Do we really have a problem? There he was shut out from the rest of the world with no way to change his circumstances. He was trapped in a what you call a one man universe – a universe in which he did not belong. We may never experience such an ordeal, but we can learn from it. In our pursuit of success and changing things in our own lives we just cannot settle. We are not bound by any physical chains, behind bars or confined to a hole in the ground. We have so much potential to act on what we want to do with our life. Where we want to go and what we truly want to do with our life. We have the right to say I will not settle! You and I have the right to say I am going to make a change and it is going to happen right now! However, this requires action because it speaks louder than words.
Even though President José Mujica’s life took a detour it never stopped his drive. In the midst of solitude you learn. You begin to appreciate life more. That’s all good, but it never pays to stay there. You will not accomplish much. Take solitude to mean whatever you wish, we must learn quickly and move forward because we have the flexibility to do so. The principle stands as José Mujica came to recognize:
“In life, you can fall down 1000 times, but the point is to have the willingness to stand up again and start again.”
How many of us are ready today to stop whining about the problems and find solutions? Are you willing to say enough is enough and take charge of your life? If so, you have made the best decision in your life. You have decided never to settle. Join with me to today and do three things:
- Share your commitment to never ever settle again in your life – accept the change and move on.
- Use this commitment phrase – “I choose to live my life and never settle. I will never settle in a…(Complete with what you want to say)
- Develop a list of actions that you will take to never settle.
Life is too beautiful for us to waste time complaining about things. Spend quality time doing the things you love!